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15/02/2019, 21h17
From Hosai Mojaddidi


Dear Parents,


When you grab your young child's arm, dig your fingers and nails into them, jerk them around, or do anything that leaves a mark on their body...that's physically abusive..


When you taunt them because they're crying by imitating them and making faces mocking them...that's emotionally abusive.


When you call them names or make fun of their intelligence (or lack thereof)...that's verbally abusive.


When you threaten them with harsh and horrific punishments in the next life for disobeying you...that's spiritually abusive.


Child abuse is ugly and has many faces. No parent perceives their actions as abusive, but if we took a hard look at how many among us treat the most vulnerable members of our family, we are likely to find abusive behavior or something very close to it.


Children may test our patience, may push our buttons, may anger us and exasperate us in ways that very few others can, but just because we brought them into this world does NOT mean we can do whatever we want to them and justify it.


They belong to GOD and He is watching our every word, our every look, and our every action towards them.


Let's not delude ourselves to think that just because we feed them, shelter them, and send them off to school, that we're doing enough. God is the Sustainer of ALL life (including ours). We are just a means (sabab), but we are certainly NOT the source of their sustenance.


PROTECTING THEM FROM HARM IS ALSO OUR JOB, BY THE WAY. SO HOW EXACTLY ARE WE DOING THAT WHEN WE ARE THE SOURCE OF THAT HARM?


If you have anger management issues, PLEASE seek help.


If you have time management issues, PLEASE seek help.


If you have spiritual afflictions, PLEASE seek help.


Let's all restore the "village" mindset by calling each other to the better angels our nature. Indeed, even a virtual village is better than no village at all.


May Allah ﷻ forgive and guide us to never take the amana of our precious children for granted and abuse our power. And may He help us help each other with gentle and beneficial reminders and sincere help. Amin.